Published on July 18, 2016 10:47 am, by Jen Bakker
How do you really understand what having kids is going to cost you in $$ terms? Some of us may research and budget, some may have a fair idea and take it as it goes, and still others might have a very limited understanding of the impact children will have on your spending.
For the planners out there, cost may be a factor when it comes to timing. A 2013 report published by AMP gives an amount of $812,000 as the average cost of raising 2 children for a typical middle-class family. Incredibly the average cost for low-income families is $474,000 and for high-income families is $1,097,000.
It’s not surprising that it’s becoming more common for people to leave having children to later in life. According to a 2011 Australian Institute of Family Study, 43% of women with children were over 30 when they had their first child, a jump from 23% in 1991.
In the last few decades the way we raise our children has changed significantly. The societal expectations have risen greatly and are reflective in what our children ask for and understand as the norm. It seems like there is forever something new to pay for. More clothes, more outside school activities and more technology to name a few.
Here are some interesting facts and figures on raising children in Australia.
It’s important to note that all the figures provided are based on what parents actually spend on raising their children, not what they need to spend.
Some simple ways to spend less when you have kids:
Avoid 1st child craziness
The things we buy for child number 1, particularly when they are babies can be impulsive and tied in to the excitement of welcoming them to your life. But your child doesn’t need a $2,000 bassinet that they will sleep in for 6 weeks before transitioning to a cot.
First children often have a change table, the best pram, a baby bath, their own towels and washers, a wardrobe of clothes larger than yours and the list goes on. The 3rd gets changed on the bed, bathed in the normal bath and shares the family linens.
Many parenting websites will help you sort out what you need, and what’s just icing on the cake if you can afford it.
Don’t buy new
Check out eBay, Gumtree and other sites where people sell their pre-loved goods. You can often find the things you need in very good condition at a fraction of the price to buy them new.
Think before signing up to activities
Remember if you are having more than one child you will need to multiply the number of activities and the cost of activities by the number of children. Given one years’ worth of piano lessons for one child equates to $3,500 this can be a big Ouch!
Remember your kids will get tired. Often their brains are tired from school and there’s nothing better than a play in the park. With lots of us working with kids in after school card, you may find they will have activities on offer as part of their program. For example my primary aged child has done ju-jitsu and soccer training this year.
They don’t always need up to date technology
A big cost for parents is phones, laptops, play stations and the list goes on. Your child doesn’t always need new, when a cared for phone and laptop can see them through the high school years.
Just because their friends have it, doesn’t mean they have to have it
Over the years, at school and elsewhere your kids will always come in to contact with kids who have less and kids who have more. The friend who gets $20 for the tuckshop every day can be stressful for the mum who sends her kid with a packed lunch to school every day.
Primary school is a great time to talk about these things and start shaping your kid’s money behaviours and values. By the time high school hits, it will be $50 a day at the tuckshop, and that can make a big dent in a budget.
Set a budget and stick to it
It’s okay to let your kids know that things cost money. It’s also okay for them to understand that if you say yes to something, that something else needs to be let go.
For example, a 2 activity rule where your child does netball and gymnastics. They want to do flute, fine, are they giving up netball or gymnastics? Not only is this a good thing for your budget, it teaches your child to prioritise what’s important to them.
And finally, MoneyBrilliant has a fantastic budgeting tool and spending reports that can help you set your targets and see how you are tracking towards them.
Jen is an experienced banking professional who loves wine, coffee, finding a bargain and of course her three beautiful children. Since Jen's first budget led her to buy a home at 20, Jen has passionately helped others to make better decisions with their money.